7-Day LOVE CHALLENGE Results
The symbol that first appeared to me when Lady Master Natasha issued the 7-day Love Symbol Challenge was a DEEP RED ROSE. On our recent anniversary, my husband brought me three rose bushes, each having a very very deep red rose. From that bush, I cut a red rose and put it in a crystal vase, setting it on the counter to look at, love, smell, and do the challenge with. I was surprised this symbol came to me as 'something I really loved'. It was the next morning, while washing dishes, that I heard the poetic simile, "Love is like a red red rose".
LMN had mentioned poetry and literature education in school as being a way we might be programmed. That famous little simile lodged itself firmly into my subconscious, telling me exactly what love was.
What happens to deep red roses? They are given as gifts to make someone happy, especially on very loving occasions. So this symbol from a poet's pen turned out to be what I built my life around...to be loving, I must make people happy. That is what a red rose does. A red rose pleases; therefore if I am to express love, I must please others.
So that is the kind of personality I became. A poet's refrain turned me into a people pleaser. What a revelation! I'd known that tendency about myself, but I had not realized where it came from.
Interestingly, I married someone whose history was that of being used to being pleased: a former Pharoah. I was the kind of mother that every kid wanted (as constantly told to my sons by their friends). Why? Because I did what I could to PLEASE THEM, to make them happy! That did not always mean sharing wisdom or providing real guidance.
So, if ‘loving’ was‘pleasing’ there was much I could not do in the world:
This brought me a shocking revelations: If I was intimidated by great wealth and extreme beauty, how could I attract wealth in my own life or see in myself personal beauty? How could I reach the pinnacle in my own life if it meant others were disturbed by it? How could I help change the planet in a positive productive manner if I had to be worried about those who didn't want the change?
As I moved through these self-limitations, THE BIGGER TRUTH ABOUT "RED RED ROSE" revealed itself, a truth I could adopt and live:
LMN had mentioned poetry and literature education in school as being a way we might be programmed. That famous little simile lodged itself firmly into my subconscious, telling me exactly what love was.
What happens to deep red roses? They are given as gifts to make someone happy, especially on very loving occasions. So this symbol from a poet's pen turned out to be what I built my life around...to be loving, I must make people happy. That is what a red rose does. A red rose pleases; therefore if I am to express love, I must please others.
So that is the kind of personality I became. A poet's refrain turned me into a people pleaser. What a revelation! I'd known that tendency about myself, but I had not realized where it came from.
Interestingly, I married someone whose history was that of being used to being pleased: a former Pharoah. I was the kind of mother that every kid wanted (as constantly told to my sons by their friends). Why? Because I did what I could to PLEASE THEM, to make them happy! That did not always mean sharing wisdom or providing real guidance.
So, if ‘loving’ was‘pleasing’ there was much I could not do in the world:
- I could never become THE BEST at something (i.e. graduate Summa Cum Laude; top executive; Olympic champion, first place winner or have the highest distinction in anything, because if I were the BEST, there are many who would be DISPLEASED because I usurped them or someone they championed.
- I would not become a Social Reformer, as that produces too much conflict and definitely displeases the status quo.
- I must not take care of myself first or even at all if it got in the way of pleasing others.
- I could not have many uber-wealthy friends or Hollywood model type friends because how do I please someone who 'has it all'? What could I offer?
This brought me a shocking revelations: If I was intimidated by great wealth and extreme beauty, how could I attract wealth in my own life or see in myself personal beauty? How could I reach the pinnacle in my own life if it meant others were disturbed by it? How could I help change the planet in a positive productive manner if I had to be worried about those who didn't want the change?
As I moved through these self-limitations, THE BIGGER TRUTH ABOUT "RED RED ROSE" revealed itself, a truth I could adopt and live:
- THE ROSE pleases by BEING ITSELF.
- It creates love simply because it EXISTS as it is.
- It is true to its nature.